My friend is dating my ex
You've been trying to control the situation by dropping hints and manipulating, hoping that people will react the way you want them to and that you'll get your way without ever having to come out and ask for it.But you're not a puppet master and they aren't puppets. Let's break this situation down and count all your mistakes: 1) NEVER break up with someone unless you mean it. If you thought that the "breakup" would only be temporary, then that's your biggest mistake.4) You are angry because she "should have known" that you still had feelings for your ex, because of all your hints, despite the fact that you said you're over him.
A buddy of mine recently mentioned that he might invite my ex to a party that we were going to and asked what I thought about that. And if you want to spend time with someone who has been “spaced” by a friend, that will very likely mean that you will then be spaced from your friend, too.
People often have a bad opinion of pursuing friends’ exes.
And there certainly are times when people who go down this path find that it really wasn’t worth it.
It’s a good idea to go into any romantic affair with eyes wide open.
The key to making a prudent decision here is to keep an emotional distance until you have made a conscious decision to move forward with your friend’s ex. We all want to be happy, and most of us are looking for someone with whom to live happily ever after.
But if you’re wondering how to go about dating your friend’s ex, and you think the pursuit might really have potential, don’t worry, you are not a terrible person.